Re: Social Pressure for SRS?

In article <1108377212.744021.247910@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
 "Tara" <t_robins@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

> Social pressure? The only real social pressure that I can speak about
> is that one we all feel from our need to be liked, loved, wanted, or
> needed.  SRS or actually having a vagina is not something a woman needs
> to show prove she's a woman, so I missing the point on how it could be
> something caused by social pressure.
> 
> Internal pressure? Don't have it, but when I do it's usually caused by
> something I ate.

Hi Tara

I think I may have initiated this discussion a few days ago with an 
observation.

Social pressure does not cause one to have SRS or not. Confirmation of 
identity is the underlying issue. My point was growing up with parents 
and society countering free, self expression results in mental barriers. 
Boys are not allowed to be sissy's to the extent that girls are allowed 
to be tomboys. Pressure is the easiest way to describe it but it 
ammounts to a feeling of an unmet basic need if you want to define it in 
terms of needs, ala Dr Abraham Maslow. 

We have terms for unmet needs like hunger, thirst, lonliness, 
insecurity. Trans***uals have not come up with a term for what that 
basic unfilled need feels like so we call it pressure. There is a 
euphoria to meeting a basic need. When a lonly person experiences love. 
When a hungry person is fed. When an orphan finds a home. When a slave 
or prisoner is given freedom. When a TG quits fighting their need and 
starts filling it, they experience the "pink cloud" of euphoria as some 
describe it. TG's are describing the freedom to be who they really are.

I then made the observation that the TG desires to confirm their 
identity after a lifetime of resisting it. A few internalize it and make 
no physical or lifestyle changes. Confirmation that other people can 
observe is primarily from one of two sources. There is external feedback 
tied together with the emotions of living in a female role. There is 
logical, reality, observation made by the TG seeing a feminized body. 

A woman doesn't need to show her vagina to prove she's a woman because 
parents and society haven't been telling her she is something else since 
early childhood.

Bernadette