On Jul 21, 9:02=A0pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> phelbooth wrote:
> > On Jul 21, 8:43 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > wrote:
> >> phelbooth wrote:
> >>> On Jul 20, 4:19 pm, "S.D." <s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> >>>> On Sun, 29 Jun 2008 13:15:59 -0700 (PDT), Vickie wrote:
> >>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and
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> >>>>> the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who
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> >>>>> are and what they do.
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> >>>> You use the word "natural"; I would use "unnatural" if romance
still
> >>>> soaks the sheets. If opposite grains have attracted, time can
easily
> >>>> turn into the rocks that separate.
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> >>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
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> >>>> No - it's being taken for granted.
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> >>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give
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> >>>>> compliment?
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> >>>> Yes, some are so out-of-touch and lacking self-esteem that
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> >>>> might have to much of an uplifting effect.
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> >>>>> Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our
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> >>>>> that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it
from
> >>>>> our partner.
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> >>>> In a world far far away in another galaxy, that might be so; when
> >>>> man/woman have evolved into a uni*** robotic object. But, here on
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> >>>> - we all need praise. The question is how often and for what.
>
> >>> We do need praise, or at least someone to recognize we're trying (my
> >>> feeling it doensnt have to be praise, as in ya did a good job, but
> >>> recognition, as in I know how hard ya tried). You did a good
> >>> job=3Dsoemone else's appraisal of you and your efforts, based on
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> >>> beliefs, (usually). "I know how hard you tried" means that who ever
> >>> said that recognizes who you are, how you try in your own way, and
> >>> even if it's not "as good as" that person's own attempts/effots at
> >>> whatever, it recognizes your position in the world.
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> >>> My entire in-laws and steps, excpet for stepson, can neither say "Ya
> >>> did a good job Fill" or "Ya tried the best ya could Fill." For them,
> >>> it's always in terms of what I did wrong. For me, they remain TOXIC.
>
> >>> Name that Tune (Bill?)
> >>> Stay away from/my window
> >>> Leave at your own chosen speed
> >>> I'm not the/one you want [babe]
> >>> I'm not the one you need
>
> >> "It ain't me babe, no no no, it ain't me babe, it ain't me you're
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> >> for...."
> >> circa 1965 - Turtles?
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> > me thinks bob dylan
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> > lemme google it, beams
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> Hmmm. =A0 =A0 Maybe they both did it. =A0 =A0Can't recall now.- Hide
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google it darlin
missed me didn'tcha
:) heh heh
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