phelbooth wrote:
> On Jul 21, 8:43 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> wrote:
>> phelbooth wrote:
>>> On Jul 20, 4:19 pm, "S.D." <s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>>> On Sun, 29 Jun 2008 13:15:59 -0700 (PDT), Vickie wrote:
>>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and forget
>>>>> the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who
they
>>>>> are and what they do.
>>
>>>> You use the word "natural"; I would use "unnatural" if romance still
>>>> soaks the sheets. If opposite grains have attracted, time can easily
>>>> turn into the rocks that separate.
>>
>>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>>
>>>> No - it's being taken for granted.
>>
>>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give out
a
>>>>> compliment?
>>
>>>> Yes, some are so out-of-touch and lacking self-esteem that
complements
>>>> might have to much of an uplifting effect.
>>
>>>>> Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our
spouse,
>>>>> that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it from
>>>>> our partner.
>>
>>>> In a world far far away in another galaxy, that might be so; when
>>>> man/woman have evolved into a uni*** robotic object. But, here on
earth
>>>> - we all need praise. The question is how often and for what.
>>
>>> We do need praise, or at least someone to recognize we're trying (my
>>> feeling it doensnt have to be praise, as in ya did a good job, but
>>> recognition, as in I know how hard ya tried). You did a good
>>> job=soemone else's appraisal of you and your efforts, based on their
>>> beliefs, (usually). "I know how hard you tried" means that who ever
>>> said that recognizes who you are, how you try in your own way, and
>>> even if it's not "as good as" that person's own attempts/effots at
>>> whatever, it recognizes your position in the world.
>>
>>> My entire in-laws and steps, excpet for stepson, can neither say "Ya
>>> did a good job Fill" or "Ya tried the best ya could Fill." For them,
>>> it's always in terms of what I did wrong. For me, they remain TOXIC.
>>
>>> Name that Tune (Bill?)
>>> Stay away from/my window
>>> Leave at your own chosen speed
>>> I'm not the/one you want [babe]
>>> I'm not the one you need
>>
>> "It ain't me babe, no no no, it ain't me babe, it ain't me you're
looking
>> for...."
>> circa 1965 - Turtles?
>
> me thinks bob dylan
>
> lemme google it, beams
Hmmm. Maybe they both did it. Can't recall now.
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