On Jul 21, 8:43=A0pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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wrote:
> phelbooth wrote:
> > On Jul 20, 4:19 pm, "S.D." <s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> >> On Sun, 29 Jun 2008 13:15:59 -0700 (PDT), Vickie wrote:
> >>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and forget
> >>> the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who
they
> >>> are and what they do.
>
> >> You use the word "natural"; I would use "unnatural" if romance still
> >> soaks the sheets. If opposite grains have attracted, time can easily
> >> turn into the rocks that separate.
>
> >>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>
> >> No - it's being taken for granted.
>
> >>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give out
=
a
> >>> compliment?
>
> >> Yes, some are so out-of-touch and lacking self-esteem that
complements
> >> might have to much of an uplifting effect.
>
> >>> Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our
spouse,
> >>> that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it from
> >>> our partner.
>
> >> In a world far far away in another galaxy, that might be so; when
> >> man/woman have evolved into a uni*** robotic object. But, here on
eart=
h
> >> - we all need praise. The question is how often and for what.
>
> > We do need praise, or at least someone to recognize we're trying (my
> > feeling it doensnt have to be praise, as in ya did a good job, but
> > recognition, as in I know how hard ya tried). You did a good
> > job=3Dsoemone else's appraisal of you and your efforts, based on their
> > beliefs, (usually). "I know how hard you tried" means that who ever
> > said that recognizes who you are, how you try in =A0your own way, and
> > even if it's not "as good as" that person's own attempts/effots at
> > whatever, it recognizes your position in the world.
>
> > My entire in-laws and steps, excpet for stepson, can neither say "Ya
> > did a good job Fill" or "Ya tried the best ya could Fill." For them,
> > it's always in terms of what I did wrong. For me, they remain TOXIC.
>
> > Name that Tune (Bill?)
> > Stay away from/my window
> > Leave at your own chosen speed
> > I'm not the/one you want [babe]
> > I'm not the one you need
>
> "It ain't me babe, no no no, it ain't me babe, it ain't me you're
looking
> for...."
> circa 1965 =A0 =A0 =A0Turtles?- Hide quoted text -
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yeah, bob dylan. don't see no ref to turtles previous, but you tell me
if i'm worng. love being wrong
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