phelbooth wrote:
> On Jul 20, 4:19 pm, "S.D." <s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> On Sun, 29 Jun 2008 13:15:59 -0700 (PDT), Vickie wrote:
>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and forget
>>> the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who they
>>> are and what they do.
>>
>> You use the word "natural"; I would use "unnatural" if romance still
>> soaks the sheets. If opposite grains have attracted, time can easily
>> turn into the rocks that separate.
>>
>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>>
>> No - it's being taken for granted.
>>
>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give out a
>>> compliment?
>>
>> Yes, some are so out-of-touch and lacking self-esteem that complements
>> might have to much of an uplifting effect.
>>
>>> Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our spouse,
>>> that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it from
>>> our partner.
>>
>> In a world far far away in another galaxy, that might be so; when
>> man/woman have evolved into a uni*** robotic object. But, here on earth
>> - we all need praise. The question is how often and for what.
>
> We do need praise, or at least someone to recognize we're trying (my
> feeling it doensnt have to be praise, as in ya did a good job, but
> recognition, as in I know how hard ya tried). You did a good
> job=soemone else's appraisal of you and your efforts, based on their
> beliefs, (usually). "I know how hard you tried" means that who ever
> said that recognizes who you are, how you try in your own way, and
> even if it's not "as good as" that person's own attempts/effots at
> whatever, it recognizes your position in the world.
>
> My entire in-laws and steps, excpet for stepson, can neither say "Ya
> did a good job Fill" or "Ya tried the best ya could Fill." For them,
> it's always in terms of what I did wrong. For me, they remain TOXIC.
>
> Name that Tune (Bill?)
> Stay away from/my window
> Leave at your own chosen speed
> I'm not the/one you want [babe]
> I'm not the one you need
"It ain't me babe, no no no, it ain't me babe, it ain't me you're looking
for...."
circa 1965 Turtles?
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