On Jul 20, 4:19=A0pm, "S.D." <s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> On Sun, 29 Jun 2008 13:15:59 -0700 (PDT), Vickie wrote:
> > I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and forget
> > the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who they
> > are and what they do.
>
> You use the word "natural"; I would use "unnatural" if romance still
> soaks the sheets. =A0If opposite grains have attracted, time can easily
> turn into the rocks that separate.
>
> > Is it just thoughtlessness?
>
> No - it's being taken for granted.
>
> > Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give out a
> > compliment?
>
> Yes, some are so out-of-touch and lacking self-esteem that complements
> might have to much of an uplifting effect.
>
> > Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our spouse,
> > that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it from
> > our partner.
>
> In a world far far away in another galaxy, that might be so; when
> man/woman have evolved into a uni*** robotic object. =A0But, here on
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> - we all need praise. =A0The question is how often and for what.
We do need praise, or at least someone to recognize we're trying (my
feeling it doensnt have to be praise, as in ya did a good job, but
recognition, as in I know how hard ya tried). You did a good
job=3Dsoemone else's appraisal of you and your efforts, based on their
beliefs, (usually). "I know how hard you tried" means that who ever
said that recognizes who you are, how you try in your own way, and
even if it's not "as good as" that person's own attempts/effots at
whatever, it recognizes your position in the world.
My entire in-laws and steps, excpet for stepson, can neither say "Ya
did a good job Fill" or "Ya tried the best ya could Fill." For them,
it's always in terms of what I did wrong. For me, they remain TOXIC.
Name that Tune (Bill?)
Stay away from/my window
Leave at your own chosen speed
I'm not the/one you want [babe]
I'm not the one you need
ice cream
sherbet
frozen yogurt
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