Stephanie wrote:
> Vickie wrote:
>> On Jul 1, 5:06 am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>> On Jun 30, 5:30 am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>> On Jun 29, 6:46 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>>>> On Jun 29, 2:24 pm, "Bill in Co"
>>>>>>>> <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>>>>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>>>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and
>>>>>>>>>> forget the need to tell that special someone that you have
>>>>>>>>>> pride in who they are and what they do.
>>>
>>>>>>>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>>>>>>>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they
>>>>>>>>>> give out a compliment?
>>>
>>>>>>>>> That's pretty sad if that's true.
>>>
>>>>>>>> When it takes a ton of prodding to coax a compliment it makes
>>>>>>>> you wonder why it is so hard for some people. You end up giving
>>>>>>>> up, and you either go the way of self-doubt or self-discovery.
>>>>>>>> I hope the friend I talked with last eve goes toward
>>>>>>>> self-discovery.
>>>
>>>>>>>>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7I5sixwOQlg
>>>
>>>>>>>>> Sorry, I'm on dialup. Old school. Plus I wouldn't watch You
>>>>>>>>> Tube crapola anyways!
>>>
>>>>>>>> Shut it!
>>>
>>>>>>> It's not open. Sorry.
>>>>>>> Next? :-)
>>>
>>>>>> Such a stink-o.
>>>
>>>>>>>> Lyrics:
>>>
>>>>>>>> Your love is better than ice cream
>>>>>>>> Better than anything else that I've tried
>>>>>>>> And your love is better than ice cream
>>>>>>>> Everyone here know how to cry
>>>
>>>>>>>> And it's a long way down
>>>>>>>> It's a long way down
>>>>>>>> It's a long way down to the place
>>>>>>>> Where we started from
>>>
>>>>>>>> - S McLachlan (changed to correct spelling)
>>>
>>>>>>> Sarah means it's gotten a lot better?
>>>
>>>>>> No, it means, wouldn't you just ride on cloud nine if someone said
>>>>>> those words to you?
>>>
>>>>>> I think people are getting stingier with complements, especially
>>>>>> between couples after the honeymoon is over.
>>>
>>>>> The problem I have with the assumption that this is a
>>>>> siutation/problem with "people" instead of you and your husband is
>>>>> that it sets up an expectation in your head that it just IS, and
>>>>> there is nothing you can do about it. If you *choose* not to
>>>>> address issues with your husband, that is you perogative. But I
>>>>> suspect that your tendency to think of these issues as general and
>>>>> common marital issues, I think leads you to a mental state that is
>>>>> not true.
>>>
>>>> Maybe it does.
>>>> I realize the *reasons* for the situation/problem can differ as
>>>> night to day, but the experience can be shared and maybe lead one
>>>> to some answers they have not considered and maybe some suggestions
>>>> of where to go from here.
>>>
>>>> Vickie
>>>
>>> I suppose. It does strike me as odd that you specifically DON'T
>>> attempt to find out what is going on in YOUR situtaion.
>>
>> Like hell I don't.
>
> Hmmm. Maybe it has been a while or I missed it.
>
>>> You seem to focus on
>>> generalities to the exclusion of looking at particulars, at least on
>>> here.
>>
>> I have spent a good ****tion of posting my specifics.
>>
>> At this point in my marriage I feel that some of the doozy issues have
>> come to a close. If you have had an issue like that you would
>> understand that when it ends it kind of sends you reeling.
>
> I am not sure what yoy mean, did a bad issue end in a good way or the
> other way around?
>
> I remember quite well when things were Bad with a capital B. Reeling is
> not my scene. It was a simple decision that I was not going to live like
> that
> for the next 60 years and that it was going to change and that I was
> willing
> to risk losing it to change it. But again, that is me. The gna****ng of
> teeth
> is short and then on to productive steps.
Well, what did you do (if you care to share)?
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