Erin wrote:
> Doug Anderson wrote:
>> Erin <im906768@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> writes:
>>
>>> If a husband treats his mistress with civility,
>>> respect and affection, finding no fault even with
>>> obvious faults she has to others, while treating his wife
>>> with impatience, irritability, rudeness and contempt,
>>> ignoring her good character, hard work, and kindness,
>>> what does it mean? My ************ says it means
>>> that he has idealized the mistress, and that he has moved on
>>> from his past love for his wife. Do counsellors think that
>>> this can be reversed? Does anyone-- are there
>>> statistics?
>>
>> People can fall in love. People can fall out of love. Nothing is
>> unchangable.
>>
>> Though frankly, if your husband has fallen out of love with you, it
>> doesn't seem particlarly likely that he'd fall back in love with you
>> while he's pursuing a relation****p with someone else.
>>
>> (It may not be likely in any case though.)
>>
>>> I tend to think that's true. And yet, some people
>>> think the marriage should continue, while others
>>> think it's over.
>>>
>>> It seems that everyone has their own interest at
>>> heart in this.
>>
>> Certainly you, your husband, and his friend all have your own
>> (different) interests at heart. Which isn't especially surprising.
>
> Well, as Van Morrison says in one of his songs:
> "there ain't nothing you can do"
>
> Erin
Van Morrison??? Wasn't he one of those rock hippies from the acid rock
60's? Bah, humbug!
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