Doug Anderson wrote:
> Erin <im906768@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> writes:
>
> > If a husband treats his mistress with civility,
> > respect and affection, finding no fault even with
> > obvious faults she has to others, while treating his wife
> > with impatience, irritability, rudeness and contempt,
> > ignoring her good character, hard work, and kindness,
> > what does it mean? My ************ says it means
> > that he has idealized the mistress, and that he has moved on
> > from his past love for his wife. Do counsellors think that
> > this can be reversed? Does anyone-- are there
> > statistics?
>
> People can fall in love. People can fall out of love. Nothing is
> unchangable.
>
> Though frankly, if your husband has fallen out of love with you, it
> doesn't seem particlarly likely that he'd fall back in love with you
> while he's pursuing a relation****p with someone else.
>
> (It may not be likely in any case though.)
>
> > I tend to think that's true. And yet, some people
> > think the marriage should continue, while others
> > think it's over.
> >
> > It seems that everyone has their own interest at
> > heart in this.
>
> Certainly you, your husband, and his friend all have your own
> (different) interests at heart. Which isn't especially surprising.
Well, as Van Morrison says in one of his songs:
"there ain't nothing you can do"
Erin
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