On Jul 2, 5:13=A0am, Erin <im906...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> If a husband treats his mistress with civility,
> respect and affection, finding no fault even with
> obvious faults she has to others, while treating his wife
> with impatience, irritability, rudeness and contempt,
> ignoring her good character, hard work, and kindness,
> what does it mean? =A0My ************ says it means
> that he has idealized the mistress, and that he has moved on
> from his past love for his wife. =A0Do counsellors think that
> this can be reversed? Does anyone-- are there
> statistics?
>
> I tend to think that's true. =A0And yet, some people
> think the marriage should continue, while others
> think it's over.
>
> It seems that everyone has their own interest at
> heart in this.
>
I think it means he is living in a fantasy. One with less
responsibility and based in no real substance.
How nice it would be to keep all the problems of the real world in
this one corner, that you only decide to visit when *you* want to, and
stay in the dream world for the rest of the time.
Marriage is the real world, usually. It is playing hard ball. It is
achingly sweet and cru****ngly severe, and a lot of the time it is ho
hum. It is real. I suppose real isn't for everyone.
Vickie
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