AllYou! wrote:
> In
> news:f5177187-bc89-479f-a05d-8265c8f74c4f@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Erin <im906768@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> mused:
> > If a husband treats his mistress with civility,
> > respect and affection, finding no fault even with
> > obvious faults she has to others, while treating his wife
> > with impatience, irritability, rudeness and contempt,
> > ignoring her good character, hard work, and kindness,
> > what does it mean?
>
> Well, it could be as the wife says it is, and that the DH is
> mentally ill from all of that head banging, or from some other
> source.
>
> Or, if not that, it could mean that there's is something physically
> or psychologically wrong with the wife who chooses to remain as the
> wife, thereby accepting being treated that way.
>
> > My ************ says it means
> > that he has idealized the mistress, and that he has moved on
> > from his past love for his wife. Do counsellors think that
> > this can be reversed? Does anyone-- are there
> > statistics?
>
> My personal belief is that nothing is impossible, and therefore, it
> is possible that the DH will someday abandon his mistress, and fall
> back in love with his wife. I also think that it's possible that I
> could win $1 billion dollars in Vegas this spring, but I'm not going
> to plan my life around it.
>
>
> > I tend to think that's true. And yet, some people
> > think the marriage should continue, while others
> > think it's over.
> >
> > It seems that everyone has their own interest at
> > heart in this.
>
> :-) No one, except you, has any vested interest in this.
That's not true-- my DH does, my family, he does-- whatever
"vested" means -- never could understand; could it be that
the closer you are to someone the freer you are to show your
bad side?
Erin
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