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> mused:
> If a husband treats his mistress with civility,
> respect and affection, finding no fault even with
> obvious faults she has to others, while treating his wife
> with impatience, irritability, rudeness and contempt,
> ignoring her good character, hard work, and kindness,
> what does it mean?
Well, it could be as the wife says it is, and that the DH is
mentally ill from all of that head banging, or from some other
source.
Or, if not that, it could mean that there's is something physically
or psychologically wrong with the wife who chooses to remain as the
wife, thereby accepting being treated that way.
> My ************ says it means
> that he has idealized the mistress, and that he has moved on
> from his past love for his wife. Do counsellors think that
> this can be reversed? Does anyone-- are there
> statistics?
My personal belief is that nothing is impossible, and therefore, it
is possible that the DH will someday abandon his mistress, and fall
back in love with his wife. I also think that it's possible that I
could win $1 billion dollars in Vegas this spring, but I'm not going
to plan my life around it.
> I tend to think that's true. And yet, some people
> think the marriage should continue, while others
> think it's over.
>
> It seems that everyone has their own interest at
> heart in this.
:-) No one, except you, has any vested interest in this.
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