Stephanie wrote:
> Vickie wrote:
>> On Jun 30, 5:30 am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>> On Jun 29, 6:46 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>> On Jun 29, 2:24 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and
>>>>>>>> forget the need to tell that special someone that you have pride
>>>>>>>> in who they are and what they do.
>>>
>>>>>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>>>>>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give
>>>>>>>> out a compliment?
>>>
>>>>>>> That's pretty sad if that's true.
>>>
>>>>>> When it takes a ton of prodding to coax a compliment it makes you
>>>>>> wonder why it is so hard for some people. You end up giving up,
>>>>>> and you either go the way of self-doubt or self-discovery. I hope
>>>>>> the friend I talked with last eve goes toward self-discovery.
>>>
>>>>>>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7I5sixwOQlg
>>>
>>>>>>> Sorry, I'm on dialup. Old school. Plus I wouldn't watch You Tube
>>>>>>> crapola anyways!
>>>
>>>>>> Shut it!
>>>
>>>>> It's not open. Sorry.
>>>>> Next? :-)
>>>
>>>> Such a stink-o.
>>>
>>>>>> Lyrics:
>>>
>>>>>> Your love is better than ice cream
>>>>>> Better than anything else that I've tried
>>>>>> And your love is better than ice cream
>>>>>> Everyone here know how to cry
>>>
>>>>>> And it's a long way down
>>>>>> It's a long way down
>>>>>> It's a long way down to the place
>>>>>> Where we started from
>>>
>>>>>> - S McLachlan (changed to correct spelling)
>>>
>>>>> Sarah means it's gotten a lot better?
>>>
>>>> No, it means, wouldn't you just ride on cloud nine if someone said
>>>> those words to you?
>>>
>>>> I think people are getting stingier with complements, especially
>>>> between couples after the honeymoon is over.
>>>
>>> The problem I have with the assumption that this is a
>>> siutation/problem with "people" instead of you and your husband is
>>> that it sets up an expectation in your head that it just IS, and
>>> there is nothing you can do about it. If you *choose* not to address
>>> issues with your husband, that is you perogative. But I suspect that
>>> your tendency to think of these issues as general and common marital
>>> issues, I think leads you to a mental state that is not true.
>>>
>>
>> Maybe it does.
>> I realize the *reasons* for the situation/problem can differ as night
>> to day, but the experience can be shared and maybe lead one to some
>> answers they have not considered and maybe some suggestions of where
>> to go from here.
>>
>> Vickie
>
>
> I suppose. It does strike me as odd that you specifically DON'T attempt
to
> find out what is going on in YOUR situtation.
What makes you think she doesn't know what is going on? That's not the
issue - the issue is, HOW to resolve it.
> You seem to focus on
> generalities to the exclusion of looking at particulars, at least on
here.
>
> Best of luck.
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