On Jul 1, 5:06=A0am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
> Vickie wrote:
> > On Jun 30, 5:30 am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
> >> Vickie wrote:
> >>> On Jun 29, 6:46 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> >>> wrote:
> >>>> Vickie wrote:
> >>>>> On Jun 29, 2:24 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> >>>>> wrote:
> >>>>>> Vickie wrote:
> >>>>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and
> >>>>>>> forget the need to tell that special someone that you have pride
> >>>>>>> in who they are and what they do.
>
> >>>>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
> >>>>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give
> >>>>>>> out a compliment?
>
> >>>>>> That's pretty sad if that's true.
>
> >>>>> When it takes a ton of prodding to coax a compliment it makes you
> >>>>> wonder why it is so hard for some people. You end up giving up,
> >>>>> and you either go the way of self-doubt or self-discovery. I hope
> >>>>> the friend I talked with last eve goes toward self-discovery.
>
> >>>>>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3D7I5sixwOQlg
>
> >>>>>> Sorry, I'm on dialup. Old school. Plus I wouldn't watch You Tube
> >>>>>> crapola anyways!
>
> >>>>> Shut it!
>
> >>>> It's not open. Sorry.
> >>>> Next? :-)
>
> >>> Such a stink-o.
>
> >>>>> Lyrics:
>
> >>>>> Your love is better than ice cream
> >>>>> Better than anything else that I've tried
> >>>>> And your love is better than ice cream
> >>>>> Everyone here know how to cry
>
> >>>>> And it's a long way down
> >>>>> It's a long way down
> >>>>> It's a long way down to the place
> >>>>> Where we started from
>
> >>>>> - S McLachlan (changed to correct spelling)
>
> >>>> Sarah means it's gotten a lot better?
>
> >>> No, it means, wouldn't you just ride on cloud nine if someone said
> >>> those words to you?
>
> >>> I think people are getting stingier with complements, especially
> >>> between couples after the honeymoon is over.
>
> >> The problem I have with the assumption that this is a
> >> siutation/problem with "people" instead of you and your husband is
> >> that it sets up an expectation in your head that it just IS, and
> >> there is nothing you can do about it. If you *choose* not to address
> >> issues with your husband, that is you perogative. But I suspect that
> >> your tendency to think of these issues as general and common marital
> >> issues, I think leads you to a mental state that is not true.
>
> > Maybe it does.
> > I realize the *reasons* for the situation/problem can differ as night
> > to day, but the experience can be shared and maybe lead one to some
> > answers they have not considered and maybe some suggestions of where
> > to go from here.
>
> > Vickie
>
> I suppose. It does strike me as odd that you specifically DON'T attempt
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> find out what is going on in YOUR situtaion.
Like hell I don't.
> You seem to focus on
> generalities to the exclusion of looking at particulars, at least on
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I have spent a good ****tion of posting my specifics.
At this point in my marriage I feel that some of the doozy issues have
come to a close. If you have had an issue like that you would
understand that when it ends it kind of sends you reeling.
I am left with built up feelings and my husband has some as well. So
now it is the little things that, try as I might, I want to not make
bigger than they are, tamp down on the resentment, not bring in the
past, and figure what needs to be addressed or let go.
Vickie
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