Vickie wrote:
> On Jun 30, 5:30 am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
>> Vickie wrote:
>>> On Jun 29, 6:46 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>> wrote:
>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>> On Jun 29, 2:24 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>> Vickie wrote:
>>>>>>> I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and
>>>>>>> forget the need to tell that special someone that you have pride
>>>>>>> in who they are and what they do.
>>
>>>>>>> Is it just thoughtlessness?
>>>>>>> Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give
>>>>>>> out a compliment?
>>
>>>>>> That's pretty sad if that's true.
>>
>>>>> When it takes a ton of prodding to coax a compliment it makes you
>>>>> wonder why it is so hard for some people. You end up giving up,
>>>>> and you either go the way of self-doubt or self-discovery. I hope
>>>>> the friend I talked with last eve goes toward self-discovery.
>>
>>>>>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7I5sixwOQlg
>>
>>>>>> Sorry, I'm on dialup. Old school. Plus I wouldn't watch You Tube
>>>>>> crapola anyways!
>>
>>>>> Shut it!
>>
>>>> It's not open. Sorry.
>>>> Next? :-)
>>
>>> Such a stink-o.
>>
>>>>> Lyrics:
>>
>>>>> Your love is better than ice cream
>>>>> Better than anything else that I've tried
>>>>> And your love is better than ice cream
>>>>> Everyone here know how to cry
>>
>>>>> And it's a long way down
>>>>> It's a long way down
>>>>> It's a long way down to the place
>>>>> Where we started from
>>
>>>>> - S McLachlan (changed to correct spelling)
>>
>>>> Sarah means it's gotten a lot better?
>>
>>> No, it means, wouldn't you just ride on cloud nine if someone said
>>> those words to you?
>>
>>> I think people are getting stingier with complements, especially
>>> between couples after the honeymoon is over.
>>
>> The problem I have with the assumption that this is a
>> siutation/problem with "people" instead of you and your husband is
>> that it sets up an expectation in your head that it just IS, and
>> there is nothing you can do about it. If you *choose* not to address
>> issues with your husband, that is you perogative. But I suspect that
>> your tendency to think of these issues as general and common marital
>> issues, I think leads you to a mental state that is not true.
>>
>
> Maybe it does.
> I realize the *reasons* for the situation/problem can differ as night
> to day, but the experience can be shared and maybe lead one to some
> answers they have not considered and maybe some suggestions of where
> to go from here.
>
> Vickie
I suppose. It does strike me as odd that you specifically DON'T attempt to
find out what is going on in YOUR situtaion. You seem to focus on
generalities to the exclusion of looking at particulars, at least on here.
Best of luck.
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