On Jun 30, 5:24=A0am, "Stephanie" <nothanks.nevergonedoit.com> wrote:
> Vickie wrote:
> > I suppose it is natural to be in a long term relation****p and forget
> > the need to tell that special someone that you have pride in who they
> > are and what they do.
>
> Why do you persist in the belief that this is normal, natural, happens
> frequently to others....? Does it make it easier thinking that it is not
> just you and a problem between you and your husband?
I don't think I am going too far out on a limb here. Sure my own
personal experience comes into play, but I think there is other proof
out there.
Why would we hear phrases such as "The honeymoon is over."?
Why are there books written about how to get close to your spouse or
to re-kindle the intimacy?
Goodness, in this NG I see it; momof4 and saddened, not to mention
some of the regulars.
Does it make it easier thinking it is a normal difficulty in
marriage? Yeah, yeah it does.
To condole with, sympathize with, basically to care, that is what is
natural for me.
And to think I went to the trouble of *not* making it a male/female
thing! lol
>
> > Is it just thoughtlessness?
> > Do some think it takes away some of their own worth if they give out a
> > compliment?
>
> >http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3D7I5sixwOQlg
>
> > Maybe we are led to believe we shouldn't need praise from our spouse,
> > that if we have pride in ourself, we shouldn't need to hear it from
> > our partner.
>
> > That is all well and good, but I think everyone needs to hear it now
> > and again.
>
> We do too. That's why we do it. Does your husband share your belief?
I think he would, if perhaps he thought about it.
Other spouses probably have to get over whatever it is holding them
back from doing it.
It is why I proposed the questions I orginally did.
Vickie
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