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Laidlaw <doug@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> mused:
> As objectively as I can be, marriage can be a mystery. There
> are things about my wife that I think don't meet my needs; I
> have sensed in the company of other women that they would be far
> more suitable in those regards. I could say that I waited too
> long, until the field was limited.
I would've felt better about this had you acknowledged that you
understand that it's a mirage (i.e., not real). While there may
very well be someone or other out there that would be a better fit
for you, the chances that they can be found almost anywhere (which
is what I infer by the phrase 'in the company of other women', as
though it happens with almost any other women) are very, very slim.
You were attracted to your DW because, at one time, you thought the
same thing about her, and as you got to know her better, you felt
that way increasingly more.
> But despite all that, there is a solid bond between us. I find
> the relation****p very satisfying and very dissatisfying at the
> same time.
>
> As I said, a mystery.
In this context, 'mysterious' is a relative term. and so it's not
all that mysterious if you realize that all human interactions are
filled with mysteries that we may never understand. You strike me
as an incredibly intelligent, articulate person who is more than
capable of figuring out how to have discussions with his DW so that
you can explore those things that are dissatisfying in your
marriage. The mystery for me is why you don't do more of that with
her.
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