My son's mom has been living with this guy for over a year, now. I don't
know what their relation****p is like behind closed doors -- and I ain't
a-gonna peak behind that door! -- but I will say that he understands
something not many people understand.
In a split family, there's this fine balance between the parents and their
children. At least, there should be a balance. In my case there is. My ex
is
a CPA, did my taxes, and I have her new guy's phone number in case I need
to
get in touch with them. Maybe one day I'll golf with the guy. Point is we
have a relation****p he could easily sabotage.
But he seems to understand how fragile that balance is between my son's
mom
and me, with my boy in the middle, and shows some respect. ~We~ are the
family unit there, and while he's part of the picture now, and may start
showing up in family photos, he's not on that family tree -- ex and I are
at
the top, not him. He lets me be the dad, lets me have a private working
relation****p with my ex-wife (privacy is extremely im****tant to me, e.g
she
took my son to get me a bday present, and I'll handle M-day with my son),
and has generally treated me and my son well. It's awkward, and it was
really awkward in the beginning (I lost it, but I found it again ;), but
I'm
pretty comfortable around him, and although it's a whacky situation, it
sure
could be a lot whackier.
Anyway, I'm babbling, eh. Just saying that sometimes it's nice to have a
little help from someone who doesn't have to help, a little less friction
from someone who sure could muck things up, and some adult behavior
instead
of a teenage sob story.
We'll see what the future brings, huh.
- Saul
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