Re: A woman who dated a married man

"krzgirl" <krzgirl@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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 Jan 4, 3:47 pm, "Bill in Co" <surly_curmudg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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wrote:
> krzgirlwrote:
> >> Ha! This is a conversation that happens in here from time to time.
> >> What your statement means is that YOU are capable of anything,
> >> depending on the cir***stances. I'm sorry that you don't know how you
> >> would react under certain cir***stances; some people do know.
> >> --
> >> Lauri in WA
>
> > I do not believe that at all.
>
> We're aware of that, but you're wrong. It's just not in your sphere of
> understanding, because you have probably never met or hung around such
> people.

I would be really interested in knowing how you KNOW I am wrong.


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No more interesting, I suppose, than how you know that folks who believe 
they do know how they would react under certain cir***stances or find it 
dimini****ng unlikely that they would "wind up" in such cir***stances would

do. It is clearly unprovable. When we are dead we will know. Maybe.

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I
believed it when I said it, and I still believe it. Forty five years
of life (and talking with many people) have taught me this, not just
this affair. I also have the concurrence of some mental health
professionals and "healthy" people. So, what qualifies you to be the
bottom line on this? What makes me wrong and you right?


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She has her experience. I have mine. You have yours. There is no external 
arbiter of who is right. She belives herself to be right. You beleive 
yourself to be right. I believe myself to be right. I am the only one who
is 
right, of course. As I always am.

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I will also go
ahead and say, what qualifies me to be the bottom line on this, and
answer it, nothing, but at least I admit that. You don't seem to think
or admit that you could be wrong.


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I know you are not replying to me. Since I have also said that I would
never 
have an affair, let me be clear on this point. I could be and often am 
wrong. I have been and will be immoral. For the record, my claim is only 
that I am of ridiculously low, as to be negligible, likelihood to have an 
affair as to be able to say that I would never do it.

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After all this discussion I still conclude that the right
cir***stances in life can lead anyone to do anything.



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This is only true if you believe that cir***stances HAPPEN TO a person.
And 
while it is true that being hit by a bus could lead to all sorts of 
behaviors, one does not have an affair just up and happen to you. Your MM 
did not just up and "fall in love." I was walking down the street one day 
and oh my god I fell into love!