Re: A woman who dated a married man

"krzgirl" <krzgirl@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message 
news:8c7fd454-cda7-46b4-ab3f-5545f6f6dbb4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Ya'll have your laughs. I go to work every day in public health and I
> help "real" people. The day will come when all of you are affected
> either directly or indirectly by in infectious disease, though I
> wouldn't wish it on any of you.

I'm really sorry you have to deal with MRSA. truly I am - no one should
have 
to deal with that. That's a chance we all take.
The herpes and chlamydia, not so much.

Anyway, I think your unrepentant stance has gone over like a lead balloon
, 
er zeppelin, here, because this is a *marriage* sup****t newsgroup.
You, as a survivor of abuse, should know better than to blame the victim 
(your lovers wife in this case) for the behavior of others. Saying  "If 
married women would be good wives, good partners, good lovers, then their 
husbands wouldn't come looking for someone. It is NOT solely the fault
of the other person, the wives are the ones that leave them unfulfilled
and 
vulnerable" takes the responsibility away from your lover, when in reality

he's the one who chose to act as he did, and you chose to go along with
it. 
That's like an abusive husband or parent saying "She MADE me hit her! It
was 
all her fault!"

You're not the one that's married, but marriage counselors dealing with 
people who are truly trying to save their marriages say that the marriage 
partners can't have "one foot out the door" if they want it to work. Cut
off 
all contact with this guy. If he shows up later, fine, deal with it then,
at 
least you'll know that while you may have been an influence in ending his 
marriage, you weren't the ultimate cause. Does that sound reasonable?