Re: A woman who dated a married man

On Fri, 28 Dec 2007 06:40:32 -0800 (PST), krzgirl wrote:

> In my situation, he was very lonely, felt neglected, not listened to,
> not treated like a parnter, and unfulfilled ***ually. Yes, I was
> vulnerable, too, but he sought me out and we did, indeed fall in love.
> When he was "caught" he told his wife that I gave him three things she
> didn't 1) I listened to him, 2) I talked to him, and 3) I made  him
> feel desireable.

At very least, that's what he told you, soliciting your nurturing side.

> 
> Not all of us who had an affair are homewreckers.

I'll give you "their marriage might have been in the last stage", facing
the possibility of failing.  Since you use the word "homewrecker", I'll
use it as I see its intended value to the other person (you) and the
subject adultry.

Intent is part of using judgment, and judgment uses the influences of
knowing right and wrong behavior.  At some early juncture, before
becoming a "homewrecker", you knew if you were facing the decision of
whether or not to become a homewrecker.

>We were overcome with guilt and I released him, then his wife found out.
If married
> women would be good wives, good partners, good lovers, then their
> husbands wouldn't come looking for someone. 

True; however the "homewrecker" has all the short term advantages
without negative relation****p influences.

>It is NOT solely the fault of the other person, the wives are the ones
that leave them
> unfulfilled and vulnerable.

And, you get to be the nurturing hero in the ideal position to
influence.  Pretty sleazy behavior, surly not heroic you ask me.  But, I
say that because I know right from wrong.

-- 
SD:)
"Intellectuals solve problems; geniuses prevent them.(A.E.)"
   My disclaimer: I can say, but can't make you see...(S.D.)