Re: A woman who dated a married man

Lauri wrote:
> On Mon, 31 Dec 2007 12:28:31 -0800 (PST), krzgirl <krzgirl@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> wrote:
>
> >
> >> I think that if he just does not love his wife anymore,
> >> he should divorce her and pay the consequences.
> >>
> >> Erin
> >
> >I have agreed with you on that one since the day he told me how deeply
> >he loved me that that was the right thing to do. But, in an effor to
> >keep from hurting her, he hasn't been honest with her that he doesn't
> >love her anymore. He thinks he is being kind. I think it is cruel to
> >keep her in the dark and lead her on. It is not up to me to do
> >anything more than express my opinion, and I cannot say mine is
> >unbiased. However, if it were me and my husband honestly didnt' love
> >me or want to be with me, I would hurt like hell, but I would want him
> >to leave.
>
> This is what you don't seem to understand:  It's quite possible that
> he *does* love her and is telling her so, and that it is YOU he is
> lying to.    In many of these situations, that's exactly what's going
> on.  Yes, he appears to be sincere when he tells you that it's you he
> loves and not her.  He also appears to be sincere to his wife when he
> tells HER that it's over between the two of you and that he loves her.
>
> He always appears to be sincere because he is a *liar*, and he's good
> at it.  Good grief, it amazes me how many cheaters and affair partners
> just do not understand this!
> --
> Lauri in WA


Aaaaarrrrggghhhh!!!

Erin