Re: A woman who dated a married man

Or how about a younger, single hotty, who's years away from
> wanting to settle down?
>
> jen

When he and I met, I was only a few months out of an awful divorce and
I was not ready to settle down. I have no problem with the
"commmitment" to someone who could and would commit to me. But, I am
not ready to marry again and will not be for a while. Though I do like
the idea of growing old with someone. I know I am not ready to re-
marry. That may be part of why the affair worked for a while, but
truthfully, it was incredibly lonely. And, yes, I can see he has
chosen his family over me. That is why I am dating. I have spent way
too much time alone and lonely in a marital relation****p (by the way I
was cheated on by my husband in my second marriage, so I do know what
that feels like, too). I also know that after a 20 year marriage, if
he does leave, he won't be ready to settle with me for a while. I have
to give him the freedom to find himself and come back to me, though he
will deny he needs this. But the love and the connection we felt was/
is still real as is evidenced by our communication. The only option he
has with me right now is to talk to me. There is no talk of ***, or at
least very little, some fond memories, no gratification from what we
are doing. We are acting like friends for now and I will not be more
unless and until he is at least legally separated. So, the ball is in
his court. And he is left to deal with his wife, who thinks things are
going well and they are all happy, but he is just as miserable as
ever, if not more so as they have been "working" on things for 7
months and they really are not any better. So, I leave the ball in his
court. I know he is about to make an exit and it won't be 8 years. Of
course he has to keep up the facade til he leaves for emotional and
legal reasons, I get that.

**************
Feel free to introduce me to the young single hottie for the meantime.