Vickie wrote:
> On Dec 27, 9:26 am, "S.D." <nos...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> On Wed, 26 Dec 2007 16:19:40 -0800 (PST), Vickie wrote:
>>> I wish I could tell you if you are moving forward or backward in
>>> this.
>>
>> When someone appears or sounds as though they have moved from
>> mourning to anger over a few weeks or months, question what your
>> seeing or hearing.
>> --
>
> I guess I was thinking of the, is it Ross?, 5 stages of grief.
>
> Like first you deny everything, then get angry, then something else,
> then are sad, then accept it. Not sure if the order means anything
or
> if you go through all 5 of them.
>
> Also I am not sure how long someone stays in a one of the stages. I
> assume there isn't really a time frame for any of them.
I suspect each of us experiences our own time frame and that we
catapult from one stage to the next and back again over and over
again. And even when we reach acceptance we can land up back
in denial for a time...
I sometimes visualise it as a an elastic band... we stretch the
elastic and we experience a sense of freedom but something in
our victim and scarcity mentality calls us back and so it shrinks
back into place. And we stretch it again, this time a little more or
less than the last time... and we repeat the exercise over and over
and over and over again... until one day we are either through and
past it all or we find something/one else to 'fill that gap'
tem****arily
cos it's all we can handle for now...
> Vickie
- Michaela
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