Re: A woman who dated a married man

lisahme...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 wrote:
> On Dec 28, 10:47=EF=BF=BDam, "Rog'" <rcblinnNoS...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> > "krzgirl" <krzg...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> > > In my situation, he was very lonely, felt neglected, not listened
to,
> > > not treated like a parnter, and unfulfilled ***ually. Yes, I was
> > > vulnerable, too, but he sought me out and we did, indeed fall in
love.=

> > > <snip>
> >
> > And if he chooses you over her, what will you have? =EF=BF=BDA guy who
> > will lie and cheat on you with whoever else he finds more desireable,
> > w/o the decency or conscience to 'fess up and end it with you.
=EF=BF=BD=
And
> > if he doesn't, then you're just a f*ck-buddy. =EF=BF=BDGood luck,
either=
 way.
>
> IF he did choose me, I would have a decent, honest man whom I would
> trust completely. We both know what we did was wrong. We both stopped
> the affair because we did have a conscience and he did admit it all to
> his wife and to their counselor. So, yes, I would trust him and no, I
> won't "get" him. I unselfishly gave him up, eventhough that was seven
> months ago and I still love him to this day and he still loves me. We
> are in contact often but I am 1000 miles away from him, now. I was far
> more than a f*** buddy. We were both friends and lovers. I even pulled
> an all nighter with him one night helping him finish an exam while we
> were on a trip together. He sent me a copy of his diploma this summer
> when he graduated because he felt I helped him study and helped him
> graduate. Yes, we were about ***, as a matter of fact, it was GREAT
> ***, but it was far more than that.

Well, if he is unhappy with his wife, he should give her a divorce--
that's the decent thing to do, imho.  Secondly, i don't know how long
his marriage has been (i have been married 30 yrs.) and i can assure
you that in the first blush of the honeymoon and into the first decade
*** can be pretty hot, but it naturally declines for a number of
reasons
NO MATTER WHO OR HOW ATTRACTIVE THE PERSON IS.
Third, infidelity destroys marriages.  I don't think that it is your
liaison
that is wrong, and your remorse; to the contrary I think that what is
wrong is that you don't continue it, especialy since you love each
other.  That being the case, maybe you can stimulate his balls to
do the right thing and compensate the victim (his wife and or
children)
by granting a divorce and giving her the same op****tunity for
a new life and happiness that he has given you and himself.

Erin