Vickie wrote:
> On Dec 27, 9:26=EF=BF=BDam, "S.D." <nos...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> > On Wed, 26 Dec 2007 16:19:40 -0800 (PST), Vickie wrote:
> > > I wish I could tell you if you are moving forward or backward in
> > > this.
> >
> > When someone appears or sounds as though they have moved from mourning
> > to anger over a few weeks or months, question what your seeing or
> > hearing.
> > --
>
> I guess I was thinking of the, is it Ross?, 5 stages of grief.
>
> Like first you deny everything, then get angry, then something else,
> then are sad, then accept it. Not sure if the order means anything or
> if you go through all 5 of them.
>
> Also I am not sure how long someone stays in a one of the stages. I
> assume there isn't really a time frame for any of them.
>
> Vickie
I think it may vary on cir***stances. As in grief many variables
play a role. For example,
- length of marriage
- degree of love
- dependents
- income, threat of poverty, or wealth
- mobility
- age
- education
- health
- reason for break-up
I am pretty sure, that if my DH had told me that if
i didn't change my ways about taking medication
as prescribed, he would leave me, i would never
have brought it up again.
But you know, the fact
that he did not, and shacked up with a co-worker,
means he looked for an escape, not to get away from
me so much (as he loved dearly and i did everything
for him), but to get *nearer* to her. Infact, i am
beginning to doubt the story about him fixing her
marriage and travelling to see the *couple*.
I bet he is just visiting her, because he never let me
into his bachelor apartment when "they visisited" nor
did he introduce me to them.
Erin
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