On Sep 3, 11:08=A0pm, "Daisy" <sweetdaisy67...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> (((Daniel))) something made me get up at 2am and look into this group. =
=A0I'm
> think of you dear sweet friend......
>
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> Daisy"Daniel" <deltaechom...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > It does not seem possible that it has been three years since my father
> > lost his brief, brave fight with cancer. =A0There was a soft-tissue
> > tumor on the liver, with metastases to bone and lung and probably
> > elsewhere before he had a diagnosis. =A0We barely had time to start to
> > fight, and it was over. =A0He barely had time to realize this was
going
> > to be the one that got him.
>
> > In her wonderful novel, "Momento Mori"(1959), Scottish author Muriel
> > Spark brings up the question of historical characters. =A0Before the
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> > of daily newspapers (and sometimes even after that) we often know of a
> > famous person only the year they died. =A0No cir***stances. =A0We go
> > through so many years of school (or at least we used to -- I'm getting
> > old, so that must have been "old school"!) memorizing dates. =A0I'm
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> > the children in England used to have to memorize the names and dates
> > of reign of all the English monarchs. =A0"Edward III, d. 1377" --
Murie=
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> > Spark asks, "What did they die...of?" =A0History is so often silent on
> > the ends of the greats. =A0Unless they took an arrow through the eye
at
> > the battle of Agincourt or some such.
>
> > But for us, the parents and sons and daughters and friends of great
> > people who (I'm assuming) were not famous, the details of the ends are
> > carved deeply into memory -- so deeply no amount of abrasive living in
> > the uncaring world can erase them.
>
> > For those we love, we know what they were sick, what they died, of.
> > Slowly or suddenly. =A0In what place and at what time. =A0These were
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> > happenings in a small -- i.e., personal -- way. =A0Not historical
beyon=
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> > a small circle and within a small number of generations, these losses
> > nevertheless are bigger than Armistice Day, bigger than any number of
> > National or Hallmark Holidays in our own personal way of observance.
>
> > Say our sun really is the center of the space-time continuum. =A0Say
> > when a loved one dies, a huge cloud of grief is emitted around the
> > planet. =A0It lingers there in space, a nebula of recollection and
> > emotion. =A0Every year our little planet swirls back around and smacks
> > back into that same cloud. =A0Oh, not everyone notices. =A0Very
persona=
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> > grief-pheromones and emotion-scents linger and are only picked up by
> > the persons involved. =A0That's what Sadiversaries are like.
>
> > So I'm back in the nebula of September 4, 2005, once again. =A0"Dad's
> > heart just stopped last night. =A0They say he was not in pain." =A0I
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d
> > his durable power of attorney for health care. =A0I was the one that
> > signed the do not resuscitate form. =A0I was the one that ok'd upping
> > the morphine drip. =A0So I guess . . . I'm the one responsible for him
> > not being in pain.
>
> > He waited until nobody was there. =A0I think he knew in spite of the
> > drugs and all. =A0There are ways of nerves and Body+Mind -- and then
> > there are spirit ways of knowing, too, don't you think?
>
> > Anyway. =A0"Celebrating" another sadiversary. =A0Tomorrow I will
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> > by doing what Dad did for so many years -- get up and go to work.
=A0Th=
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> > older I get the more I admire him for that.
>
> > Peace and love to all of you,
> > --
> > Daniel =A0( deltaechom...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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more ((((((((hugs))))))))))) for you Daniel....alot of people are so
lucky to have a wonderful
dad..................not me :(
but your dad sounded swell! ;)
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