Liliana wrote:
> On Aug 30, 8:17=EF=BF=BDpm, Bev <bebelestrnge0...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> > Hello,
> >
> > I am feeling lost. Mom was very sick for many years. She fought back
> > from a near death experience just a year and a half ago. I was able to
> > be with her then in the hospice we took her to. We were told she would
> > suffer if we had kept her at my sister house. I spent a good 5-6
> > months in Texas back then helping my sis care for mom. She got well
> > enough to go back home to my sis's house and I came back home. I never
> > got to see mom again. She had heart disease, lung disease and
> > diabetes. Apparently she had severe osteo****osis too. About 2 weeks
> > ago sis took mom to the hospital with severe back pain, Turns out she
> > has several "old" compression fractures due to how brittle her bones
> > in her spine were. Morphine was not even ending the pain for longer
> > than a couple hours. Once the medicare kicked her out of the hospital
> > she was moved to a rehabilitation center { nursing home} . The doc
> > there prescribed a fentanyl patch of 25 mcg. and oral vicoden. This
> > did not do much more than have her sleeping a lot she had some good
> > moments. The pain still broke through and on the 27th she was
> > administered a 75 mcg. patch of Fentanyl and by 1 a.m. that same
> > morning she was rushed from the nursing home to the hospital her blood
> > pressure bottomed out. The patch was immediately removed. The doctor
> > said in order to keep mom from heart failure they had to put her in a
> > level of renal failure. So she was being given intravenous fluids and
> > lasix. By 11:30 that morning The 28th mom was in terrible pain, the
> > doctor asked her if she was sure she wanted a shot for pain that it
> > could supress her respiratory system too much. At the same time they
> > had catheritized her and only blood came from her bladder, she was in
> > renal failure. Mom said "I have had enough =EF=BF=BDI can't do this
any=
more I
> > want the shot". She fell asleep and slept several hours. My sis called
> > me and said her lunch ws still sitting there , I asked her to wake mom
> > and ask her if she wanted it. She awoke long enough to decline in her
> > way "I don't want that s***. The nurse came in about 15 minutes later
> > and took vitals and that was when we all realized she was going to
> > die. There was no bottom number for a blood pressure at about 4 p.m.
> > by 8:08 p.m. mom was gone. I never got to talk to her on the phone the
> > last week of her life, she told sis she didn't want any calls from
> > anyone. The night before she died I asked my sis to ask her again if
> > we could call her, she was never conscious enough to ask her. She's
> > gone and I have this void inside my soul. Her wishes were to be
> > cremated in Texas. I live in Pennsylvania, I'll never see her again.
> > This is devastating.
> >
> > Bev
>
> Dear Bev,
> It sounds like your mom suffered quite a lot. I am sorry for your
> loss. I looked after my father for many years, and then I watched him
> die about 2 years ago. He too went through so very much.... from
> doctor to doctor, so many things wrong that nothing could help the
> pain. I am grateful that I was with him until the end, and was able
> to do all that I could, just as you seemed to have done with your
> mom. Grief is hard, and will take its own time, and yes it is
> devestating. I wish you well, and hope that you get as much sup****t
> as you can from family and friends.
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