On Aug 30, 8:17=A0pm, Bev <bebelestrnge0...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> Hello,
>
> I am feeling lost. Mom was very sick for many years. She fought back
> from a near death experience just a year and a half ago. I was able to
> be with her then in the hospice we took her to. We were told she would
> suffer if we had kept her at my sister house. I spent a good 5-6
> months in Texas back then helping my sis care for mom. She got well
> enough to go back home to my sis's house and I came back home. I never
> got to see mom again. She had heart disease, lung disease and
> diabetes. Apparently she had severe osteo****osis too. About 2 weeks
> ago sis took mom to the hospital with severe back pain, Turns out she
> has several "old" compression fractures due to how brittle her bones
> in her spine were. Morphine was not even ending the pain for longer
> than a couple hours. Once the medicare kicked her out of the hospital
> she was moved to a rehabilitation center { nursing home} . The doc
> there prescribed a fentanyl patch of 25 mcg. and oral vicoden. This
> did not do much more than have her sleeping a lot she had some good
> moments. The pain still broke through and on the 27th she was
> administered a 75 mcg. patch of Fentanyl and by 1 a.m. that same
> morning she was rushed from the nursing home to the hospital her blood
> pressure bottomed out. The patch was immediately removed. The doctor
> said in order to keep mom from heart failure they had to put her in a
> level of renal failure. So she was being given intravenous fluids and
> lasix. By 11:30 that morning The 28th mom was in terrible pain, the
> doctor asked her if she was sure she wanted a shot for pain that it
> could supress her respiratory system too much. At the same time they
> had catheritized her and only blood came from her bladder, she was in
> renal failure. Mom said "I have had enough =A0I can't do this anymore I
> want the shot". She fell asleep and slept several hours. My sis called
> me and said her lunch ws still sitting there , I asked her to wake mom
> and ask her if she wanted it. She awoke long enough to decline in her
> way "I don't want that s***. The nurse came in about 15 minutes later
> and took vitals and that was when we all realized she was going to
> die. There was no bottom number for a blood pressure at about 4 p.m.
> by 8:08 p.m. mom was gone. I never got to talk to her on the phone the
> last week of her life, she told sis she didn't want any calls from
> anyone. The night before she died I asked my sis to ask her again if
> we could call her, she was never conscious enough to ask her. She's
> gone and I have this void inside my soul. Her wishes were to be
> cremated in Texas. I live in Pennsylvania, I'll never see her again.
> This is devastating.
>
> Bev
Dear Bev,
It sounds like your mom suffered quite a lot. I am sorry for your
loss. I looked after my father for many years, and then I watched him
die about 2 years ago. He too went through so very much.... from
doctor to doctor, so many things wrong that nothing could help the
pain. I am grateful that I was with him until the end, and was able
to do all that I could, just as you seemed to have done with your
mom. Grief is hard, and will take its own time, and yes it is
devestating. I wish you well, and hope that you get as much sup****t
as you can from family and friends.
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