On Aug 26, 7:08=A0am, "Crystal's mom" <faman...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> On Aug 25, 7:29=A0pm, Liliana <xen...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > After ten *this Sept. 6.) I finally have James plaque up. =A0My friend
> > whose son is buried beside James (that is how we met) has made
> > arrangements to have her son's plaque done for the end of the month.
> > She has chosen to have the plaque done all in bronze. =A0We have been
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> > help to each other over these many years, but lately she is
> > "different". =A0On my son's birthday in Jan. I asked her if she would
> > like to go to the cemetery with me, and help with the arrangements for
> > my son's plaque, but her answer was " I am too stressed, and I would
> > be more stressed by going to the cemetery at this time" Where once she
> > was a comfort to me, now I feel she is taking (I have helped her
> > financially and in many other ways) =A0Last night, since I knew she
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> > gone to the cemetery, I asked her what she thought of my son's
> > plaque.... and she said.... " It\s O.K." =A0 =A0I was hurt by such a
> > bland, answer, which indicates to me that I could have done better.
> > Am I being petty? =A0I felt hurt, as I tried to make James' plaque
> > personal with a drawing of a sunrise he had drawn when we were in
> > Florida, done in ****celain, and his signature under the picture....
> > and my own words which I spent some time trying to find the right
> > words.
> > I feel hurt.... and feel we are not connecting anymore.. =A0It is so
> > sad, as it makes me feel so alone, because if I can\t connect with a
> > bereaved mother who else can I connect with... who understands.
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> Hi Liliana,
> =A0 =A0You connect with Me! =A0And probably lots of others here in our
> comfort room. =A0I rarely post, but I read each and every post (except
> the trolls) and I sometimes cry for the person writing...for myself
> too; and sometimes I get to smile for all that the person has given me
> in comfort without even knowing me at all. =A0 So many times, I wish
> that it was possibly to meet and actually hug the person and say Thank
> You.....You've helped me so by your postings.
> I know that feeling of not connecting with anyone who
> understands....I've been losing my patience with co-workers dreadfully
> and I'm afraid it will get even worse and this month and as the next
> few progress. =A0The hurt really becomes intense this time of year:
> Sept. 4th...their anniversary; =A0 Sept.22nd...Crystals' birthday; =A0
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> 16th...Sammys' birthday....then the d-day,Nov,30.
> =A0 There is a poem that people keep sending me that talks certain
> people who come into your life for a reason at that time....enjoy
> knowing the person while you can....their stay in your life may not be
> long. =A0We all know this from experience. =A0I wish that I had the
> answers as to the WHY of losing our most loved; then maybe I could not
> hurt so bad....maybe people would enjoy being around me
> again....maybe, maybe, maybe..............
> Huge ((((Hugs))))),
> Amanda,
> Crystalsmom;
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Thank you for all your responses. Sometimes I think I lack
judgement , am losing my mind, am too sensitive, etc. You all have
helped me so many times. Thank you so very much.
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