On Aug 25, 6:29=A0pm, Liliana <xen...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> After ten *this Sept. 6.) I finally have James plaque up. =A0My friend
> whose son is buried beside James (that is how we met) has made
> arrangements to have her son's plaque done for the end of the month.
> She has chosen to have the plaque done all in bronze. =A0We have been a
> help to each other over these many years, but lately she is
> "different". =A0On my son's birthday in Jan. I asked her if she would
> like to go to the cemetery with me, and help with the arrangements for
> my son's plaque, but her answer was " I am too stressed, and I would
> be more stressed by going to the cemetery at this time" Where once she
> was a comfort to me, now I feel she is taking (I have helped her
> financially and in many other ways) =A0Last night, since I knew she had
> gone to the cemetery, I asked her what she thought of my son's
> plaque.... and she said.... " It\s O.K." =A0 =A0I was hurt by such a
> bland, answer, which indicates to me that I could have done better.
> Am I being petty? =A0I felt hurt, as I tried to make James' plaque
> personal with a drawing of a sunrise he had drawn when we were in
> Florida, done in ****celain, and his signature under the picture....
> and my own words which I spent some time trying to find the right
> words.
> I feel hurt.... and feel we are not connecting anymore.. =A0It is so
> sad, as it makes me feel so alone, because if I can\t connect with a
> bereaved mother who else can I connect with... who understands.
Hi Lilliana..Just wanted to send (((HUGS))) your way. Life is just so
hard some times and this is one of those times. Your "friend" is
probably going thorugh a bad spell and just can't be normal right now.
I know there are times in this process of living without my child I
just am not myself.I know I will never be the person I was before my
daughter died. There just is not that joy in the world anymore. Your
plaque for your son sounds just perfect and as long as you know he
would love it find comfort in that and don't worry what the rest of
the world is thinking. I know I have grown more solitary since Cindy's
death because it is just easyier to be alone with my three cainie
companions that with uncaring and thoughtless people. We have to
realize that none of us are really"OK" anymore, it is just that
somedays are better than others.Findcomfort here from people who do
care and understand about heart aches. I am sure your son is watching
over you and sending spiritual love your way..Judy, Cindy's Mom
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