No Liliana you are not being petty...whenever something like this happens
to
me I give them the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps she is having a relapse
over the death of her child I really can't say.....but James plaque sounds
beautiful and personal. I know he would of approved honey. People, my
own
family put down the marker I had for Busters grave, he was a computer
geek,
the smartest man I knew when it came to computers....so I put a picture of
a
computer, an engraved one on his burial site. Everyone thought it was
inappropriate but you know what? I knew that Buster would of loved it,
DID
love it in fact, and that's all that mattered to me. As far as your
friend
goes, give her some time, I think perhaps it was just too much for her
right
now. Perhaps she has something else going on in her life that she can't
deal with. Little things like that can happen, heck I just got through
watching an episode of "Army Wives", and this mother went to the last
place
that she saw her daughter alive, she and her sister broke down, and guess
what, so did I....so you see, little things can happen to disrupt our
world
even if we can't see it coming. It will be OK, you'll see, I bet you hear
from her in a few days. She'll think about treating you that way and will
feel very bad about it. As far as our sons grave markers, they're
together,
Buster and James saying in Busters famous words...WE HAVE THE COOLEST MOMS
EVER!!! (((hugs to you my friend))) sorry for rambling on.
--
Daisy
"Liliana" <xena.w@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> After ten *this Sept. 6.) I finally have James plaque up. My friend
> whose son is buried beside James (that is how we met) has made
> arrangements to have her son's plaque done for the end of the month.
> She has chosen to have the plaque done all in bronze. We have been a
> help to each other over these many years, but lately she is
> "different". On my son's birthday in Jan. I asked her if she would
> like to go to the cemetery with me, and help with the arrangements for
> my son's plaque, but her answer was " I am too stressed, and I would
> be more stressed by going to the cemetery at this time" Where once she
> was a comfort to me, now I feel she is taking (I have helped her
> financially and in many other ways) Last night, since I knew she had
> gone to the cemetery, I asked her what she thought of my son's
> plaque.... and she said.... " It\s O.K." I was hurt by such a
> bland, answer, which indicates to me that I could have done better.
> Am I being petty? I felt hurt, as I tried to make James' plaque
> personal with a drawing of a sunrise he had drawn when we were in
> Florida, done in ****celain, and his signature under the picture....
> and my own words which I spent some time trying to find the right
> words.
> I feel hurt.... and feel we are not connecting anymore.. It is so
> sad, as it makes me feel so alone, because if I can\t connect with a
> bereaved mother who else can I connect with... who understands.
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