Hello Mary,
I wish Steve's group still was. I know there are many caring people
here, I hope it remains that way. I could not handle it the way it was
years ago. I know some of the people here and I am sure I'll find some
very caring and helpful sup****t. I have so much turmoil inside. Last
night our mother who lives in Texas and nearly died a year ago from
some mysterious illness they still can't quite put their finger on,
was taken to the ER. My Sis and family left her with a nurse visiting
twice a day and a neihbor coming in three times a day, to take a
little vacation in Galveston and aparently our mother fell and did not
tell anyone. She then proceeded to take over 30 opiate pain killers
over a 5 or less day period of time. Sis and I were texting till 2-3
a.m. about what they found with mom. She has a huge bruise on her
back ,stroke level blood pressure and her spine is compacted/crushed.
So she is now in the hospital in Texas my sister is supposed leave on
a business trip in a couple days. Her older daughter helps as much as
she can as well as her husband but this year her husbands oldest1st
marriage) abandoned her newborn with them and then got arrested both
she and her husband are in prison. I am worried about my youngest sis
as well as the one I am caring for and now our mother. I swear this
never ends. There are five children here (siblings) My oldest brother
ended up with us because he dam there cut off two fingers where he was
working and my cousin had kicked him out. He is on unemployment now
but so severly depressed, he is up all night sleeps all day or is on
the phone with women from the internet. He is mean and nasty and I am
tired of his crap too. He is a big man , I mean I am not thin but he
has to be 400 lbs eats everything and is 50 years old. He claims he's
just gonna drop like our Uncle did. Well isn't that nice. He does not
care , can be of no help to our mother, refused to come and stay with
our sister because I wasn't sure the cells would work . Luckily my
cell works and I found a hot spot for my latop. Our younger brother
was asked to stay with mom while our younger Sis went on a vacation
and a break! He told her it was't a good time. This family is shot. I
would have gone to care for mom but I have our sister. Heh ;-) good
morning rant over and thanks for listening.
Bev
On Aug 7, 10:37=EF=BF=BDpm, MaryD <nojunkstuff1...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> Bev-
>
> Just know you're in my thoughts. =EF=BF=BDYou have had some rough times
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I
> know you are facing more. =EF=BF=BDThis is a good group for sup****t &
I'm=
glad
> you're here.
>
> MaryD
>
> On Aug 5, 12:16=EF=BF=BDpm, Bev <bebelestrnge0...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
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>
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> > So sorry to hear that you lost your sister. My sister wants me to
> > promise that she will not suffer like that. I've promised I would see
> > to it and there is a plan"A" concerning that. Yesterday turned out as
> > I expected. She called me shortly after I posted here and told me she
> > was discharged and ready for me to come get her. Well we waited
> > another 5 hours and they kept saying to her the discharge is not
> > complete they were waiting for the admitting doctor . Well.....my
> > sister started swearing and pacing around gettin angrier by the moment
> > and said I am out of here and startd to walk out with me behind her
> > waving at the nurses station to get their attention.We got a good 15
> > minutes away from the hospital before someone called my cell telling
> > me she must come back for her oxygen and discharge instructions. I sat
> > with her for 5 hours and she had no oxygen on the whole time! Anyway
> > aparently she was supposed to and she took it off before I got there.
> > Her discharge blood pressure was 165/115 ! and blood sugar was 307
> > ummm I hate when this happens...I'm not sure if the insurance kicks
> > her out like this or her behavior when she is in a few days has them
> > kicking her out. All I know is that those are high readings and they
> > said she is weaning off of prednisone and those numbers should go
> > down. Ahhhh I hope so. She is on 2 liters continuous oxygen. I could
> > not take her back to her place because the A/C is not working yet. So
> > we are back at my place. I've made phone calls and am waiting for a
> > return call on the A/C at her place. Meanwhile my younger sister and
> > her family chose to take a vacation in Galveston and aparently
> > Edouardo is after them ! I hope they are safe. Oh yea....the stop
> > smoking plan stopped as soon as she got in the car, and I made sure
> > there wasnt so much as a butt in the ashtray, first stop she wanted to
> > make was for cigarettes, asked me if I wanted a pack I said no. I made
> > it through the night , my third full 24 hours of my quit has been
> > ended this morning, I had a cigarette with my coffee. I knew this was
> > not the time.
>
> > I can stay away from the black berry brandy but boy the smokes have a
> > hold on me still. I rather smoke then get sh*t faced anyway, I make
> > better decisions :-)
>
> > Bev
>
> > On Aug 4, 8:45 pm, "Daisy" <sweetdaisy67...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>
> > > Bev, you can't have guilt feelings for wanting her out of her pain,
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n fact
> > > I think that's a purely unselfish act on your part. It hurts to see
t=
hose
> > > we care about hurting so much. My sister died from cancer 26 years
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o and
> > > I watched her lie there in agonizing pain to the point of just
wantin=
g her
> > > to go and be free from all the pain she was in. It's not wrong
honey,=
it's
> > > humane and loving. I'm here if you need to talk anytime OK? If I
were
> > > closer to you I would help in other ways to help you through this.
>
> > > --
> > > Daisy"Bev" <bebelestrnge0...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
>
> >
>news:29006e2b-26ec-4028-a847-07806cff01ad@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > > Hello Daisy, It's been a while. Thanks for responding to my post,
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t
> > > > helps to know someone is willing to listen. I know I am certainly
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ot
> > > > the only one to have or is going through so much for so long. This
> > > > time around I am blind sided by my emotions so much. I mean, I
have
> > > > known for so long the time would come that Dawn (sister) would
need=
me
> > > > more and we talked many times about what she needs from me when
the
> > > > time comes. I find myself to be scared of her death. I thought I
wa=
s
> > > > stronger than this. I was able to stand up and deal with anything
m=
y
> > > > fathers death and Gayles death meant I'd have to do. They both
went
> > > > peacefully after being in a comatose state. My sister has been
dyin=
g
> > > > for 20 years for me. I have watched her change both physically and
> > > > mentally. The person she has become is very sick and twisted. Her
> > > > brain is not right. She can be downright mean. Her nastiness is
mak=
ing
> > > > it quite hard to spend time with. I am all she has. She has begged
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me
> > > > in her weakest moments to make sure she does not die a painful
deat=
h.
> > > > I will see to it she does not, no one should have to. Some of the
> > > > things my sister has done to me over the years hurt pretty bad,
but=
I
> > > > forgive her. I love her way beyond the abuse I must subject myself
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to
> > > > in caring for her. She may get out of the hospital today, if she
do=
es,
> > > > I will be leaving my family once again as I did for months when
our
> > > > mother was very ill. I know my family will be ok without me,and
thi=
s
> > > > time i'll only be an hour away and not half way across the map. I
w=
ill
> > > > be able to go home if need be any time. I have no idea how long
Daw=
n
> > > > will continue to be well, every pnuemonia feels like it is the end
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and
> > > > she pulls back out and keeps on going thus nicknamed the energizer
> > > > bunny. My sister abuses her medication, opiates and benzos. She
nod=
s
> > > > out with cigarettes and burns things(my just paid for sofa) :-( or
> > > > nods out in a plate of food. She can not be left alone. She walks
> > > > around in a stu**** stealing things (like my gold jewelry) My
family
> > > > does not understand why I just take the stuff she steals back and
> > > > forgive her. She is up all hours of the night crying begging Jesus
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to
> > > > take her. I am trying to round up help so as to have a break on
> > > > occasion, there is no way I can do this alone. I have opted to try
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and
> > > > quit smoking with her in hopes to eliminate the fire hazard.
Probab=
ly
> > > > the worst time to try and quit, we both have the patch. I believe
s=
he
> > > > will want cigarettes as soon as she gets out of the hospital and
th=
at
> > > > will be the end of that. If so we will be back in the hospital
once
> > > > more with her heart and lung issues. How do you tell a dying
person
> > > > they cant smoke? Her attitude is why bother, I can't say
different,
> > > > she is the one dying. I probably wont talk much more here about
thi=
s
> > > > part of what I am going through. Sometimes I just wish for her to
b=
e
> > > > out of her misery. I have some guilt issues going on for thinking
t=
hat
> > > > way. I guess I will end this now so I can get ready to head out to
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the
> > > > hospital.
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