So sorry to hear that you lost your sister. My sister wants me to
promise that she will not suffer like that. I've promised I would see
to it and there is a plan"A" concerning that. Yesterday turned out as
I expected. She called me shortly after I posted here and told me she
was discharged and ready for me to come get her. Well we waited
another 5 hours and they kept saying to her the discharge is not
complete they were waiting for the admitting doctor . Well.....my
sister started swearing and pacing around gettin angrier by the moment
and said I am out of here and startd to walk out with me behind her
waving at the nurses station to get their attention.We got a good 15
minutes away from the hospital before someone called my cell telling
me she must come back for her oxygen and discharge instructions. I sat
with her for 5 hours and she had no oxygen on the whole time! Anyway
aparently she was supposed to and she took it off before I got there.
Her discharge blood pressure was 165/115 ! and blood sugar was 307
ummm I hate when this happens...I'm not sure if the insurance kicks
her out like this or her behavior when she is in a few days has them
kicking her out. All I know is that those are high readings and they
said she is weaning off of prednisone and those numbers should go
down. Ahhhh I hope so. She is on 2 liters continuous oxygen. I could
not take her back to her place because the A/C is not working yet. So
we are back at my place. I've made phone calls and am waiting for a
return call on the A/C at her place. Meanwhile my younger sister and
her family chose to take a vacation in Galveston and aparently
Edouardo is after them ! I hope they are safe. Oh yea....the stop
smoking plan stopped as soon as she got in the car, and I made sure
there wasnt so much as a butt in the ashtray, first stop she wanted to
make was for cigarettes, asked me if I wanted a pack I said no. I made
it through the night , my third full 24 hours of my quit has been
ended this morning, I had a cigarette with my coffee. I knew this was
not the time.
I can stay away from the black berry brandy but boy the smokes have a
hold on me still. I rather smoke then get sh*t faced anyway, I make
better decisions :-)
Bev
On Aug 4, 8:45=EF=BF=BDpm, "Daisy" <sweetdaisy67...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> Bev, you can't have guilt feelings for wanting her out of her pain, in
fa=
ct
> I think that's a purely unselfish act on your part. =EF=BF=BDIt hurts to
=
see those
> we care about hurting so much. =EF=BF=BDMy sister died from cancer 26
yea=
rs ago and
> I watched her lie there in agonizing pain to the point of just wanting
he=
r
> to go and be free from all the pain she was in. =EF=BF=BDIt's not wrong
h=
oney, it's
> humane and loving. =EF=BF=BDI'm here if you need to talk anytime OK?
=EF=
=BF=BDIf I were
> closer to you I would help in other ways to help you through this.
>
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> > Hello Daisy, It's been a while. Thanks for responding to my post, it
> > helps to know someone is willing to listen. I know I am certainly not
> > the only one to have or is going through so much for so long. This
> > time around I am blind sided by my emotions so much. I mean, I have
> > known for so long the time would come that Dawn (sister) would need me
> > more and we talked many times about what she needs from me when the
> > time comes. I find myself to be scared of her death. I thought I was
> > stronger than this. I was able to stand up and deal with anything my
> > fathers death and Gayles death meant I'd have to do. They both went
> > peacefully after being in a comatose state. My sister has been dying
> > for 20 years for me. I have watched her change both physically and
> > mentally. The person she has become is very sick and twisted. Her
> > brain is not right. She can be downright mean. Her nastiness is making
> > it quite hard to spend time with. I am all she has. She has begged me
> > in her weakest moments to make sure she does not die a painful death.
> > I will see to it she does not, no one should have to. Some of the
> > things my sister has done to me over the years hurt pretty bad, but I
> > forgive her. I love her way beyond the abuse I must subject myself to
> > in caring for her. She may get out of the hospital today, if she does,
> > I will be leaving my family once again as I did for months when our
> > mother was very ill. I know my family will be ok without me,and this
> > time i'll only be an hour away and not half way across the map. I will
> > be able to go home if need be any time. I have no idea how long Dawn
> > will continue to be well, every pnuemonia feels like it is the end and
> > she pulls back out and keeps on going thus nicknamed the energizer
> > bunny. My sister abuses her medication, opiates and benzos. She nods
> > out with cigarettes and burns things(my just paid for sofa) :-( or
> > nods out in a plate of food. She can not be left alone. She walks
> > around in a stu**** stealing things (like my gold jewelry) My family
> > does not understand why I just take the stuff she steals back and
> > forgive her. She is up all hours of the night crying begging Jesus to
> > take her. I am trying to round up help so as to have a break on
> > occasion, there is no way I can do this alone. I have opted to try and
> > quit smoking with her in hopes to eliminate the fire hazard. Probably
> > the worst time to try and quit, we both have the patch. I believe she
> > will want cigarettes as soon as she gets out of the hospital and that
> > will be the end of that. If so we will be back in the hospital once
> > more with her heart and lung issues. How do you tell a dying person
> > they cant smoke? Her attitude is why bother, I can't say different,
> > she is the one dying. I probably wont talk much more here about this
> > part of what I am going through. Sometimes I just wish for her to be
> > out of her misery. I have some guilt issues going on for thinking that
> > way. I guess I will end this now so I can get ready to head out to the
> > hospital.
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