Oh yes I agree, what a beutiful thing to think about.
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Daisy
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>> On Fri, 23 May 2008 10:52:32 -0400, gloria212@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>>>Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried
>>>alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always
>>>scattered.
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>>>Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.
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>> My grand parents had always planned on being cremated. At least that
>> was grandma's plan, I think Granddad was always a bit ambivilent to
>> the whole idea.....discussing anything regarding his eventual passing
>> was something he avoided with great effort (to the point of having no
>> will at age 90!) My grandma died first -- a week prior to their 75th
>> wedding anniversary. Granddad followed Grandmas wishes and she was
>> cremated. When the ashes arrived, neither my Granddad or Aunt could
>> decide what to do with the ashes. Grandma wanted to be scattered
>> throughout a stretch of woods she had paricular fondness of. Granddad
>> and Aunt were reluctant to do so. So, the ashes sat. Almost a year
>> to the day after Grandma passed away (94 years!) Granddad died.
>> During the year after Grandma's passing, he'd made two decisions. The
>> first being to create w will. Thank heaven for that, he had a pretty
>> tood amount of land and various investments. He also determined that
>> he really didn't want to be cremated. His rather sudden and
>> unexpected death (yes, at 95 years we were still taken by surprize)
>> actually created a solution for the question of what to do with
>> Grandma's ashes. The ashes were placed in a heart shaped container,
>> painted with flowers, and placed in the crook of Granddad's arm in the
>> casket and the two were buried together. Very poignant. Their head
>> stone bears the dates of their dates of birth, dates of death and in
>> an etching depicting two hands bearing wedding bands, the date of
>> their marriage - depicting their 75 year union.
>>
>> My parents were so touched by that stone that they ordered the same
>> stone for themselves. For four years the stone bore only my mothers
>> information and the date of her marriage to dad. This past year dad
>> joined her. I haven't yet seen the completed stone. But this one
>> will depict a union of 56 years and 1 month to the day.
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> Beautiful!
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