On Fri, 23 May 2008 10:52:32 -0400, gloria212@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
>Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried
>alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always
>scattered.
>
>Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.
My grand parents had always planned on being cremated. At least that
was grandma's plan, I think Granddad was always a bit ambivilent to
the whole idea.....discussing anything regarding his eventual passing
was something he avoided with great effort (to the point of having no
will at age 90!) My grandma died first -- a week prior to their 75th
wedding anniversary. Granddad followed Grandmas wishes and she was
cremated. When the ashes arrived, neither my Granddad or Aunt could
decide what to do with the ashes. Grandma wanted to be scattered
throughout a stretch of woods she had paricular fondness of. Granddad
and Aunt were reluctant to do so. So, the ashes sat. Almost a year
to the day after Grandma passed away (94 years!) Granddad died.
During the year after Grandma's passing, he'd made two decisions. The
first being to create w will. Thank heaven for that, he had a pretty
tood amount of land and various investments. He also determined that
he really didn't want to be cremated. His rather sudden and
unexpected death (yes, at 95 years we were still taken by surprize)
actually created a solution for the question of what to do with
Grandma's ashes. The ashes were placed in a heart shaped container,
painted with flowers, and placed in the crook of Granddad's arm in the
casket and the two were buried together. Very poignant. Their head
stone bears the dates of their dates of birth, dates of death and in
an etching depicting two hands bearing wedding bands, the date of
their marriage - depicting their 75 year union.
My parents were so touched by that stone that they ordered the same
stone for themselves. For four years the stone bore only my mothers
information and the date of her marriage to dad. This past year dad
joined her. I haven't yet seen the completed stone. But this one
will depict a union of 56 years and 1 month to the day.
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