I've wrote here before about losing my neice. Monday, May 12th is the 1
year
anniversary. My sister has planned a small intimate service at the
cemetary
with her pastor being there. It will be Jenny's closest friends and
family.
My sister wants to do this for 2 reasons. First, the funeral was sureal.
This is a small town and all the high school seniors were there, and about
half the rest of the school. The church was filled beyond capacity. It
was
the same at the cemetary. So we will all get a chance to say what we
couldn't say a year ago. The second reason is that my sister feels that we
all made it through the 'year of firsts' and that it is ok to move
forward.
Those were her words.
I really don't think she is anywhere near ready to move forward. I know
she
is really still hurting bad. Maybe she is trying to convince herself that
if she does this it will help start the healing process. I am so worried
about her. She has health problems and is in bed most of the time. And
recently has had 2 seizures, so she cannot drive. It has been a struggle
to
keep her weight above 100 pounds.
I need suggestions on what I can do to help her. Please, give me your
experiences or what you would have wished for (besides the one thing that
would fix everything) I hurt so bad for my sister and her young son. What
can I do to help her? And then there's next week which would have been
Jenny's 19th birthday...
thanks
Pam
