On 18 Jun 2006 07:56:52 -0700, "ang" <different858@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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following was posted in blue dry erase marker:
>Hi my name is Ang. I am 36 years old. My mom passed away last May. I
>am struggling again. I would write about how I feel...but it is too
>hard to explain..I feel everything. It is confusing. I feel like my
>emotions are on the outside of my body and that everyone and everything
>can just poke fun at them at will. I cannot protect them, nor control
>it. What can I do to move through this stage? I feel like I am losing
>it. I hate everyone and everything at times...I cry over
>everything...it is way too overwhelming.
There are a few things you can try... meditation is one. Another is to
set aside time every day, 15 minutes or so, to write to your mom in a
journal. It'll probably make you cry a LOT at first but after awhile,
you may not need more than 5 minutes.
Another thing is to consider checking with a doctor that you're
comfortable with about depression. People who have been able to control
mild, lifelong depression often find that when something as hurtful as
the loss of a mother happens, it's impossible to regain ground again
without some help.
Also, there are some very good bereavement groups. It may help to know
you're not alone and to connect with people who feel the same way you
do.
You could look into volunteering to help others. Sometimes a community
project, doing something for others, will help with the healing.
Lastly, grief is a rocky path. Some days are fine, others are a mess and
there seems to be no concrete reason why one day is better than another.
Losing a mother is a deep, emotional loss and it takes awhile to get
back into living and get use to the idea that mom is with us... just in
a different way now.
Hugs,
'Kate
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