<p_j_holly@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote
> Hi,
> I'm new to this group.
>
> A week ago I found my neighbour in his car. He was dead, the motor was
> running and he had a hose going into the car. For him life was over
> and he was "at peace". For me and those neighbours I called on to help
> it was not good.
>
> I now cannot sleep, I have visions of him in the car. I can not bear
> to hear an engine running, I feel sick.
>
> Has anyone else had this unfortunate experience.
>
> I would be interested to know how they handled it.
>
> P J
There is a technique called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and
Reprocesssing) about which I learned in a suicide-survivors listserv list.
I believe they are online at http://www.emdr.com
( http://www.emdr.org
gets
you the same website). I'm not absolutely sure, but from the name of the
process, I presume it takes visual flashbacks and creates new, safe
associations for them. So, for example, if you have a visual memory of
seeing your friend in the car, you end up remembering a sunny day in June
rather than the horror you felt upon seeing your friend in this way. I do
not work for them. I have not tried the technique myself. At least one
of
the suicide-survivors list members had found value in it.
The fellow who ran suicide-survivors has given it up; many of the people
on
the list went to an interactive website created by another
suicide-survivors
member -- http://www.solos.org
(SOLOS=Survivors of Loved Ones' Suicides).
There may still be discussions of EMDR on this site.
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