Lori wrote:
> Hi,
> I am new to the group.
> I lost my husband to suicide 18 months ago....I found him in his
> car...car running...hose from the exhaust into the car. I feel like my
life
> has been suspended since then as I try to go on with day-to-day living
and
> to deal with all the emotions. I have a pre-teen son who should have his
> Dad. I have done all the things suggested to me to get through
> this....counselling, sup****t groups, talking, reading books on
> suicide....all of those things have helped, but I find that I am still
just
> going through the motions of daily living....trying to stay strong for
my
> son. The roller-coaster of emotions is amazing...from anger to sadness
to
> depression etc....will this ever end? I have many good friends and
family
> who have been incredibly sup****tive and I am so thankful for them...yet
they
> cannot fully understand how hard this is....not like someone who has
been
> through it themselves.
> And now I am an only parent, not only dealing with my own emotions,
but
> trying to raise a child who has lost his Dad and to be a good parent to
> him....it is so difficult to cope some days.
> I would love to hear from anyone who can lend some insight from
their
> situation and how they have managed to get through.
> Thanks,
> Lori
as I said in my last post - you have to mourn to recover
don't pretend
cry along with your son
My father died at sea in 1942 when I was six, and as a young male you
make a composite male role model from the males around you
a science teacher + a couple of musicteachers + a rock climber + some
craftsmen . . . . so you can grow up without a dad perfectly OK
My mother concealed her grief which was not good for me
a good idea is to go to his grave everyday and talk with him
and remember through you and his son he is still alive in your hearts
Hugh W
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