Jersey Grl wrote:
> I am a 47 year old female with four daughters ranging from age 16 to 22.
> I have been geeting very severe pelvic pain & lower back pain. I had an
> ultra sound done. I was told today that I have cysts on both ovaries and
> Endometriosis.
> We spoke about the treatment plan which will work for me. However when
> I explained it to my guy he was only interested in the fact that the
> doctor said no ***ual intercourse for several weeks. She knows that is
> is extemely painful & she is concerned that a cyst will rupture. Other
> than that he seeme uninterested. In the meantime IL very scared. I
> keep thinking the what ifI need the surgery. I am worried, I need
> sup****t through this. Is anyone willing to be that sup****t and offer
> information about it to me?
> You can mail me at jerseygrl-@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
webtv.net
> I hope to hear from someone soon.
> Nancy~
> Thank You~
Hi Nancy
Firstly I am so sorry to hear about your news. I totally sympathise
with what you are going through and it saddens me to hear that your guy
is taking such a selfish stand at a time when you need sup****t. I do
so hope that you are getting some sup****t from your daughters at least.
You must think positively in that you have started to address what is a
severe problem in your life. I have endo and fibroids, which were
treated last year (I am 44), and know of no other pain that is so
excruciating - and I've had it since 14. So to go to the doctors and
start getting your problems diagnosed and treated - this is a
significant milestone so be proud of yourself.
I think broadly most medical treatments are the same, but the best
advice is going to be from your doctor or consultant. I found it
helpful to arm myself by going to reputable web-sites i.e. those run by
known medical organisations, or the drugs companies themselves and
finding out for myself more about the drugs and treatments being
proposed. I felt empowered and felt it gave me a chance to speak on a
one to one basis with my consultant. Basically taking a pro-active
approach to the whole thing. Luckily I did have a consultant who was
happy to deal with someone that wanted to be involved. One BIG advisory
is that you must keep all in pro****tion when looking at stuff on the
websites.
With regards to my own treatment, I had a laproscopy and laser
treatment for my endo. I found the surgery surprisingly easy to handle
- and I suffer from chronic anxiety and will worry about worrying. I
think that by the time of surgery I knew everything that was going to
happen, knew the consultant doing the work and had met the
anaesthetist. Post surgery, I am embaressed to say that my first two
thoughts were that my back ached and I was extremely hungry - I had no
pain at all (it was all skillfully managed, and I was given pain relief
during the first night. Subsequent investigation showed I had three
small holes in my abdomen: one on my right lower abdomen, one 4 inches
from my naval and one under by naval itself, all of which quickly
healed and I have no marks bar the one on the naval which I think is
where the gas went in. The only problems I had was that the gas used to
extend my abdomen in surgery was painful if I was up for any amount of
time in the first two days of surgery and I wished someone had
suggested some mild laxatives. Other than that I took it very easy for
the first fortnight and was very kind to myself for the next 4 and
didn't return to work until that point.
I am sure that my experiences are the same as many - so please don't be
scared. While I respect people's experiences which may not have been so
happy, I think we are all a bit louder when things don't go right then
when they do. To others reading experiences it results in an
understandable distortion of experiences.
So, remember you are doing this for yourself. Be strong and put
yourself first as you deserve to improve the quality of your life.
Hopefully your partner will come around, but only you know him and
whether you are willing to continue - but make it your decision.
Is there truely no one who you can call or talk to over a coffee? I am
happy to sup****t you where I can - I am based in the UK and am no
medical expert but am happy to sup****t where I can. I was lucky to have
a good friend who'd been through similiar and knew where I was coming
from and I know how invaluable that sup****t is.
I am happy to be in email contact either here, or at
m_mcgahon@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
- If you are in the US, just bear in mind that I
am around 5 hours or so ahead when waiting for responses!
Take care and loads of (((((hugs))))) at this time
Mel
PS Good job your partner wasn't in my husband's place - he had to wait
several months whilst I was undergoing drug treatment and having every
menopausal experience going
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