On Apr 28, 5:22 am, Mike <N...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> Apr 27: Responding to gena D...
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> > iam so tired, anybody else feel like i do?
>
> Probably every full time carer on the planet. :(
>
> The problem with full time caring is that the caring
> typically only goes one way. I don't mean that in a bad way,
> just that those who need the care often get so involved in
> their own problems they fail to see the load on their
> carers.
>
> If there is not an effective mechanism to ragulate the cost
> to the carer, then one just keeps on keeping on, never
> seeing signposts that indicate we should have taken a break
> here or there.
>
> We don't take breaks of course, because we are always
> chasing the "perfect game" where we finally achive some
> goal, some ideal situation where we CAN take a break and
> feel as if we've achived what we set out to. This never
> happens because it can't, and we never take that break.
>
> We need to learn how to take "half-way" breaks.
>
> Either that or we end up falling over and then there are two
> care-needers.
>
> I was once asked what the most im****tant times in my day
> were. I figured they would be my most productive. I got the
> quiz wrong. It seems that leasure time is the time that
> should be protected. If you are on a break, you should be
> unavailable. Totally offline. Not there to be scooped back
> into things before you have rested.
>
> Work out what YOU need.
>
> Plan it, arrange it (lie if you need to).
>
> TAKE THE BREAK!
>
> And start this today. Ok?
>
> --
>
> Yellow Submarine?
> Nah. Its a TeaPot!www.tinyurl.382gmp
I can't imagine caring for 4 people much less one! When I was taking
care of my mother there were those brief moments of respite that I
enjoyed but to be perfectly honest it was just something that I felt
that I had to do.
I remember when money was very tiight and I had to go back to work and
someone asked me how I could go back to work - didn't it bother me?
Well of course it did but when money is tight you do what you have to
do. In the end though I managed to be able to work from home so that
left me a lot of time to be able to be her care-giver.
Rose
http://members.aol.com/Roseb44170/home.html
"How in the heck did I ever get talked into this?"
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