I would like to present a few facts concerning addiction. The first and
basic problem is where such terrible power of addiction and its control
over
a human comes from. Despite many systems, methods and therapies one can
choose from, a human is not very often in a position to find an effective
help for themselves. It seems to me that the core of the problem lies in
the
difficulty in recognising a true nature of addiction. Isn't it so that
each
method of dissuading an addict from their addiction does not solve the
problem but only puts it off? Consequently, do we not condemn ourselves
for
a lifelong struggle? I think such an attitude only "blurs" reality. While
immersing oneself in true nature of addiction, one can become convinced
that
both suc***bing to addiction and diverting attention from it are in fact
the
same escape. What does it mean then? Well, this means a lot. Firstly, an
obvious conclusion is that the brain of an addict has forgotten how to
react
correctly to physical and psychic stimuli, which is why it remains in the
state of permanent confusion. This observation, in my opinion, is vital
for
an addict (the observation made not at verbal but at mental level) and it
clears the way for overcoming addiction. Secondly, there needs to be an
observation between a stimulus and the act of suc***bing or the act of
distracting attention; the more addicted a person, the shorter the time of
the observation. Although this condition lasts for a short time, it is the
key to the problem which holds an answer to the basic question: "What do I
actually run away from?". In fact we do not run away from addiction but
from
this condition. An ensuing question is what to do to stop escaping from
it.
Is verbalization a way to become accustomed to it? On the contrary,
verbalization or thinking about this condition is another escape into a
virtual world of our brains. The only solution to the problem is, in the
first place, a sort of physical-psychic-emotional vigilance which enables
us
to seize the moment of the observation, which in itself is a success, and
secondly, after the seizure of the moment, an activity consisting not in
reacting, which is an escape, but in "observing" and "staying" with it.
What
is meant here is that we do not know this condition a priori and we can
discover its nature only by looking "without any assumptions". Such pure
looking is at the same time the solution to the problem. This could be
compared to two people. On the one hand let us take a zoologist who spends
all his life researching in the life of spiders and who does not feel fear
of them but, on the contrary, he closely scrutinizes it. On the other hand
we have a person suffering from arachnophobia, who trembles with fear just
thinking about spiders. The zoologist looks at spiders in a purely
scientific manner and without any assumptions. Here lies the power of the
looking, which works like a laser beam burning off a diseased tissue. At
the
same time it leaves healthy tissues unharmed and, what is more, closes
blood
vessels preventing additional bleeding. Summing up, let me repeat it again
that the discovery of the real nature of a problem is its simultaneous and
instant solution, for it turns out that in fact the problem does not
exist;
it is us who sustain it in our virtual reality.
Do not ask if there is hope. Do not ask 'how?'. I do not want to tell
people
about hope or methods, but about facts. This fact, however, can only be
discovered by you yourself.
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