How about having the expectant mother as a live-in? There are
alternative methods of fini****ng high school, so the added expenses of
adding her and her baby to your household can be offset by what you are
currently paying for day care. In addition, perhaps the teen's parents
would
contribute toward her expenses as well.
Not knowing much about adoptions, I've heard of the nightmares
concerning birth mothers changing their minds and demanding custody. It
seems like you would be especially at risk, due to your relation****p with
the family. Rather than take that risk, by adopting the baby or fostering
it, and becoming surrogate parents for the teen mother, you can share the
joy and love of raising her baby and give the mom the sup****t she needs to
learn to be a good mother.
If she chooses to pursue a future that is independent of the baby she
will at least be less guilt ridden, knowing her baby is in good hands and
the baby will have had the benefit of bonding with her birth mother as
well
as you two, being able to nurse, etc. You will have been blessed with the
privilege of raising two more children, even if the teen's stay with you
is
short-lived. Hopefully the means to afford child care for your two adopted
children will be provided for you by the time the young mom goes on to
college.
--
Kirk Bogle
Administrator
Sunny Day Preschool & Daycare Center
1320 N. Bristol Street
Sun Prairie, WI 53590
kirkbogle@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
608-837-8202
Fax 608-825-6357
<philly_mn@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
news:1165853213.296917.295430@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Hi,
>
> My wife and I have an adopted three year old daughter who is currently
> in a daycare center. Although it's a bit crowded, we're really happy
> with the socialization and education she's been getting. We were
> planning on adopting again but not right away since we don't feel we're
> financially ready. Well it turns out that a friend of a friend has a
> pregnant 17 year old daughter that wants us to adopt her baby. Anybody
> who's been through the adoption process knows how difficult it can be,
> so it would be insane to pass up such an op****tunity. After looking at
> our finances there are some options we can explore to ease up some
> extra cash (refi our house, student loan hard****ps, etc.) for daycare
> for a 2nd child, but it will be very difficult. We've been looking into
> a number of care options (au pairs, live-in or live-out nannies,
> in-home daycares, etc.) but want to be sure we're exhausting every
> possibility before deciding what to do. Hopefully somebody reading this
> has been in a similar situation and may have some advice to share, or
> can at least point me in the right direction. (This is my first time on
> this group so I'm not even sure if this is appropriate here).
>
> Bottom line, I guess what I'm asking is what is the best
> bang-for-the-buck option for childcare of an infant and a three
> year-old. Any help will be greatly appreciated.
>
> Thanks so much,
> Nate
>
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